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THE NIGHT I BROKE DOWN & REMEMBERED WHO THE HELL I AM

 

~By Ryan 

Last night wasn’t just another night in a concrete box.

It was one of those nights where a man gets stripped down to the bone.
Where every lie he told himself suddenly stops working.
Where the truth sits at the edge of the bunk and stares dead into your soul.

I didn’t sleep.
Didn’t even try.
All I did was sit here scrolling through every picture of me and my wife — my babe — and realize just how deep I’d buried myself in guilt, fear, and the noise of everybody who’s ever had something to say about me.

You look at enough pictures of the life you’re terrified you’ve ruined…
and it hits different.

Around 3 a.m., I broke.
Not in a weak way.
In a human way.
In the way men in here pretend they’re too tough to feel.
But I felt it — all of it.

I cried until my chest hurt.
Cried because I failed the one person who’s been riding for me harder than anyone ever has.
Cried because I’ve been carrying the weight of my past like it owned me.
Cried because I kept telling myself that the damage was too done to repair.

But here’s the part nobody’s ready for:

After the breakdown came the clarity.

That fire that only comes from losing everything once already…
and realizing you’re not about to lose the only real thing you’ve ever had again.

People out there forget one thing about me —
I study everything.
I watch intentions.
I remember words, tones, looks, betrayals, setups, motives.
I’ve learned enough the hard way to know when something’s shifting.
And last night, I felt the shift inside myself.

Call it the Midwest in me.
Call it the streets that raised me.
Call it survival instinct.
Call it a Kansas City Shuffle —
because while they’re looking left, I’m already moving right.

Everybody who thought I was too stuck, too broken, too blind?
They’re about to learn I’ve been paying attention the whole damn time.

This guilt I’ve been drowning in — it ain’t the whole story.
I’ve owned my part.
I’ve apologized.
I’ve stared my mistakes dead in the face.
But I’m not shouldering the blame for things that were built on lies and interference and people trying to wedge themselves between a bond they could never match.

Because the truth is, the marriage ain’t failing.
The outside voices are.
The bullshit is.
The distractions are.
The fear is.

And all of that dies today.

Today is the day I change direction.

Not because I need to convince anyone.
Not because I’m trying to prove something to the system.
Not because I suddenly found religion or remorse or some new version of myself.

But because the man I actually am —
the one underneath the trauma, the anger, the survival mode —
he finally stood back up last night.

And that man knows exactly what he wants.
Exactly what matters.
Exactly who he belongs to.
Exactly who carries his name.
Exactly what future he’s fighting for.

This isn’t some fairytale love story.
This is prison walls, broken childhoods, addiction battles, bad decisions, trauma triggers, missed calls, and two years of hell.
But it’s also loyalty, fire, connection, truth, and a bond people try — and fail — to understand.

Age don’t mean shit.
Time don’t mean shit.
Distance don’t mean shit.
Opinions sure as hell don’t mean shit.

What matters is this:

A man can fall a hundred times,
but the one time he stands up with purpose?
That’s the version of him the world never forgets.

Last night, I hit my breaking point.
Today, I’m using it as fuel.

The course is changing.
The noise is done.
The negativity gets cut off here.

Watch how I move from this point forward.
Watch how the story shifts.
Watch how loyalty beats chaos.
Watch how love beats fear.
Watch how a man who nearly lost everything becomes the man he should’ve been from the beginning.

Ride or die?
Nah.
Ride and rise.

Because me and my babe —
we weren’t built to crumble.
We were built to climb.

And this is just the start.

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