The early days of our relationship were anything but easy. Falling in love with someone behind bars is not something you can prepare for, and every day felt like navigating uncharted territory. Yet, despite the challenges, our bond only grew stronger.
After deciding to leave my job as a correctional officer, I was filled with both relief and fear. Relief because I could finally let myself love freely, without the constraints of my professional role. Fear because I was stepping into a world of uncertainty, where judgment from others was inevitable, and the path ahead was anything but clear.
But the reality of those early days was even harsher than I anticipated. Ryan and I didn’t get to speak after I quit. In fact, the prison tried to get him to say that I was "coming on to him," and they opened a PREA investigation against me.
For those unfamiliar, the Prison Rape Elimination Act (PREA) is a federal law designed to prevent, detect, and respond to sexual abuse and harassment in correctional facilities. When a PREA investigation is opened, the facility investigates any allegations of sexual misconduct. In our case, the prison was looking into whether there had been any inappropriate conduct between Ryan and me. The process was intense and stressful, adding even more strain to an already difficult situation.
On the outside, things weren’t any easier. My then-husband and I were being followed and watched by the prison, and every move I made felt scrutinized. The pressure was immense, and there were days when it felt like the walls were closing in on me.
Our only communication during this time came through Ryan’s parents. Hearing how he was doing from them was both a blessing and a curse. It was a relief to know he was okay, but it was also heartbreaking to be so close yet so far away. We weren’t allowed to speak at all, and that silence was deafening.
Despite all of this, I never lost sight of why I made the choice to be with him. Love isn’t always logical, but it is powerful. And our love, no matter the circumstances, was something worth fighting for.
Those early days were filled with uncertainty and fear, but they also taught us resilience. Even though we couldn’t speak directly, we found ways to stay connected through the love we shared and the strength we found in each other. We made a promise to never give up, no matter how hard things got.
Looking back now, I realize that those early days were the foundation of the life we’ve built together. They taught us patience, endurance, and the true meaning of unconditional love. And even though our journey is far from over, I know that the strength we found during those days will carry us through whatever comes next.
"Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go."
—Joshua 1:9
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