Loving Someone Who Is Incarcerated: Is It Worth It? Absolutely!

Being with someone who is incarcerated isn’t just hard—it’s emotionally exhausting, lonely, and overwhelming. For those of us standing on the outside, there are days when fear, doubt, and stress consume us. We wonder: Are they being honest with me over the phone? Are they using again? Are they staying out of trouble? The questions never stop, and neither do the worries.

We carry the weight of supporting ourselves, while also trying to support them financially. It often feels like the responsibility doubles, and sometimes we wonder if they expect it or even appreciate it. But then comes the biggest question of all—Is it worth it?

YES! A thousand times yes! Because the person you love, the one you chose to stand by, is worth it. And the love you share makes it worth it.

Being a prison wife is hard. Being the wife of a recovering addict is even harder—especially knowing that prisons are filled with the same drugs that nearly took them away from us. The fear that the drugs will pull them back in never really leaves us, but neither does our love.

But here’s the thing: I love him. I love him with everything I have. I support him, I am his strength, and in many ways, I am his reason to keep fighting. I am his anchor, his stability, and no matter how long this journey takes, I won’t ever give that up.

He is worth every tear I’ve shed, every long night of doubt, and every moment of waiting. We are worth it. This is our journey. And though the path is full of obstacles and heartbreak, I truly believe this is the road that God has put us on for a reason. Maybe it’s to help him finally get sober, or maybe it’s to show both of us what true love, honesty, loyalty, and faithfulness in a marriage really are.

Incarceration doesn’t define us. It challenges us, yes, but it’s not the whole story. We are building something much bigger, something deeper, something that is absolutely worth fighting for. Every second spent apart is a test of our strength and commitment, but that just means when we are together again, we’ll be stronger than ever.

This journey is about US, and we are forever worth fighting for, no matter how long it takes.

1 Corinthians 13:7 (NIV): “It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”

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