Let me tell you what it’s like to go to war—not with guns or bombs, but with phone calls, legal documents, and a heart that refuses to give up. I’m not just fighting for my husband—I’m fighting against an entire prison system built to wear people down until they give up. But I won’t. I haven’t. And I never will.
My husband is incarcerated in Arizona Department of Corrections. And what started out as a mission to simply advocate for his safety has turned into a full-scale, nonstop battle with a system so corrupt, so broken, and so indifferent to human life that some days, I feel like I'm in the twilight zone.
Where do I begin? Maybe with the time he was brutally attacked by another inmate and had to go into protective custody. Or when they transferred him from Red Rock to La Palma without notice, like a pawn on a chessboard. Or the multiple times his PC requests were denied, despite evidence of credible threats—and then used against him to accuse him of making false allegations.
Then there's the retaliation. Oh, the retaliation. My husband is being punished because I advocate for him. Staff lie. They gaslight him. They deny the existence of inmates I can prove are real with a simple AZDOC lookup. Officers call him into meetings with no intention of helping—they try to intimidate, to break his spirit. I’ve heard everything from COs refusing to record conversations (even after being asked) to them manipulating his mental health score to keep him labeled as a 3D—effectively blocking his chance at programs, transfers, and even clemency.
Medical care? Forget it. The for-profit medical providers like NaphCare are only interested in covering their own asses, not in helping inmates. ROI forms go missing. Medications get stopped without explanation. Staff try to trick him into signing documents without my knowledge. And don’t even get me started on the mental health designation game they play. The goal? Keep him boxed in, isolated, and discredited.
I’ve watched as drug rings operate freely inside, run by staff. I’ve reported it. Nothing changes. Meanwhile, my husband—who desperately wants to get clean and change—is surrounded by easy access to the very thing that destroyed him in the first place. And the moment I speak up about it, they retaliate. Against me. Against him. Against both of us.
We’ve faced false accusations, unsubstantiated write-ups, and now even criminal allegations stemming from a bunk fall—right after I questioned his medical treatment. Coincidence? I think not.
They’ve denied him visitation with me, even though I resigned from my job at a private prison over two years ago. They say it's because I was under investigation, which is a lie. I have documentation proving the investigation started after I quit. But facts don’t seem to matter in a system designed to protect itself at all costs.
The trauma isn’t just his. It’s mine. I’ve had my personal, confidential information stolen and passed around inside prison walls. My health has suffered. I’m disabled and still fighting every day—not just for him but for our future. I’ve watched courts shrug. I’ve seen lawyers bail. I’ve mailed out clemency packets to the highest offices in this country and heard nothing back.
And yet—I keep going.
I do it because love doesn’t quit. Because the truth still matters. Because my husband deserves a chance to rebuild his life outside of concrete and barbed wire. Because nobody should be thrown away just because they were broken.
This blog isn’t just a story. It’s a warning. It’s a war cry. It’s a middle finger to the entire system that thinks people like me will stay silent. I won’t. I’m loud, I’m relentless, and I’ve got receipts.
To anyone reading this who thinks you’re alone in your fight: you’re not. And if you need someone to stand with you in the flames, know this—I’ve been living in them for years. And I’m still standing.
Welcome to the resistance.
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