The Fight for Justice: Constitutional Violations at Red Rock Correctional Center

 

As a prison wife, the struggles of navigating a system that often feels unjust and dehumanizing are far too familiar. My husband has been incarcerated at Red Rock Correctional Center, operated by CoreCivic, since August 12, 2024. In these few short weeks, we've experienced firsthand the disturbing reality of how frequently the rights of inmates are disregarded. It’s not just a matter of poor conditions or lack of basic necessities—it's about the systematic violations of the very amendments designed to protect the rights of every person in this country, including those behind bars.

The First Amendment Violations

One of the most immediate and personal impacts has been the violation of the First Amendment rights of inmates. The First Amendment protects freedom of speech, expression, and association. However, my husband’s visitation privileges were abruptly revoked, with no clear explanation or due process. Initially, he was granted video visits, only for them to be suddenly and arbitrarily canceled. When he politely asked to move to a table with better reception, his request was not only denied, but his visit was canceled entirely by a correctional officer acting on a power trip.

This is not just a minor inconvenience; it’s a direct violation of his right to communicate with his family. The arbitrary nature of this decision suggests a retaliatory motive, which further infringes on his First Amendment rights. Inmates, just like everyone else, have the right to speak, to communicate, and to maintain family connections. When these rights are stripped away without due cause, it’s not just an abuse of power—it’s unconstitutional.

The Fourteenth Amendment Violations

The Fourteenth Amendment guarantees due process and equal protection under the law. Since my husband’s arrival at Red Rock Correctional Center, I’ve seen how these rights are often ignored. The sudden revocation of his visitation privileges without any explanation or opportunity to appeal is a clear violation of due process. The prison administration’s lack of communication and refusal to provide a valid reason for these actions only highlights the disregard for his constitutional rights.

Moreover, there seems to be a pattern of unequal treatment among inmates. Those who speak up or make reasonable requests, like my husband did, are often met with retaliation or harsher treatment. This unequal application of rules and privileges is a violation of the equal protection clause of the Fourteenth Amendment. Every inmate, regardless of their background or the nature of their request, deserves to be treated with fairness and respect. Unfortunately, this is not the reality at Red Rock Correctional Center.

Eighth Amendment Concerns

While my husband's experience primarily highlights violations of the First and Fourteenth Amendments, it’s important to also mention the Eighth Amendment, which prohibits cruel and unusual punishment. Although this might not have been directly implicated in our situation, the conditions at Red Rock Correctional Center—like overcrowding, poor sanitation, and inadequate medical care—often raise serious Eighth Amendment concerns. Inmates are frequently subjected to conditions that are not just uncomfortable but inhumane, adding another layer of constitutional violations to the mix.

Why This Matters

You might wonder why these constitutional violations matter so much. After all, these are inmates—people who have broken the law and are serving their time. But the Constitution doesn’t make exceptions for certain groups of people. It guarantees rights to everyone, regardless of their circumstances. When we allow the rights of one group to be trampled, we set a dangerous precedent for the erosion of rights for all.

For families like mine, and so many others I speak with, these violations are not abstract legal issues—they have real, painful consequences. They strain our relationships, cause emotional distress, and make an already challenging situation even harder to bear. My husband’s case is just one example, but I know there are countless other families facing similar struggles.

What Can Be Done?

Raising awareness is the first step. By sharing our story, I hope to shed light on the ongoing constitutional violations happening at Red Rock Correctional Center and other facilities like it. But awareness alone isn’t enough—we need action. That’s why I plan to reach out to Governor Hobbs, the Arizona Department of Corrections, and other relevant authorities to demand accountability and change.

I encourage other families who are experiencing similar issues to speak out. Together, we can make a difference and hold those in power accountable for their actions. Our loved ones may be incarcerated, but that doesn’t mean they are less deserving of their constitutional rights. We must continue to fight for justice, for them, and for all those who cannot speak for themselves.

Contact Information:

If you’re facing similar issues or want to voice your concerns, here are some important contacts:

Mr. Kelly Knoll - Manager
Email: iffliaison@azadc.gov
Phone: (602) 364-3945
Address: Constituent Services Unit, Arizona Department of Corrections, 701 E. Jefferson St., Phoenix, AZ 85034

Warden of Red Rock Correctional Center – Bruno Stolc
Email: Bruno.stolc@corecivic.com
Address: Red Rock Correctional Center, 1750 E Arica Rd, Eloy, AZ 85131
Phone: (520) 464-3800

Deputy Warden of Red Rock Correctional Center – Jason Snow & Greg Fizer
Email: Jason.snow@corecivic.com & Gregory.fizer@corecivic.com
Phone: (520) 464-3800
Address: Red Rock Correctional Center, 1750 E Arica Rd, Eloy, AZ 85131

Governor Katie Hobbs
Mailing Address: Office of the Governor, 1700 West Washington Street, Phoenix, AZ 85007
Phone: (602) 542-4331
Fax: (602) 542-1381
Email: https://azgovernor.gov/office-arizona-governor/form/assistance-request
Website: Governor Katie Hobbs - Official Website

Fighting for Your Loved One’s Rights: A Guide for Families and Inmates

When someone you love is incarcerated, it’s easy to feel powerless against the system. The rules, regulations, and red tape can be overwhelming, leaving you wondering how you can protect your loved one's rights and help them navigate this challenging time. But you’re not powerless. By becoming informed and proactive, you can advocate for your loved one and help them fight for their rights from the inside.

Understanding Inmate Rights

The first step in fighting for your loved one’s rights is understanding what those rights are. Inmates have specific protections under the law, despite being incarcerated. These rights include, but are not limited to, protection from cruel and unusual punishment, access to medical care, the right to practice their religion, and the right to due process in disciplinary actions.

Educating yourself on these rights is crucial. A valuable resource for this is Jailhouse Law, a website dedicated to providing information about inmates' rights. They offer comprehensive guides on what rights your loved one has while incarcerated, and how to fight back if those rights are violated.

Helping Your Loved One Advocate for Themselves

In addition to advocating on their behalf, you can also empower your loved one to fight for their rights from within the system. Encourage them to become familiar with their rights and the prison’s grievance procedures. This can be a powerful tool in holding the institution accountable.

Jailhouse Law also offers resources that can help inmates understand their legal standing and how to file grievances if their rights are violated. Additionally, they offer printed copies of legal information that can be sent directly to inmates. You can request these materials here.

Steps to Take If Rights Are Violated

If you or your loved one believes their rights have been violated, it’s important to act quickly:

1. Document Everything: Keep detailed records of the incident, including dates, times, and the names of individuals involved.
2. File a Grievance: Most prisons have a formal grievance procedure that inmates must follow to report a violation. Make sure your loved one understands this process and follows it correctly.
3. Seek Legal Assistance: If the grievance process does not resolve the issue, it may be necessary to seek legal counsel. There are organizations that specialize in prisoner rights that can offer assistance.
4. Contact Advocacy Organizations: There are numerous organizations dedicated to fighting for inmate rights. One of the most well-known is the ACLU. You can find your local ACLU affiliate here. They can provide support, guidance, and sometimes even legal representation.

Supporting Your Loved One

As a family member or partner, your support is invaluable. Regular communication, encouragement, and involvement in their legal battles can make a significant difference. Let your loved one know that you are there for them, not just emotionally, but also as an advocate for their rights and well-being.

Conclusion

Fighting for your loved one’s rights while they are incarcerated can be a daunting task, but with the right resources and support, it is possible. By staying informed, encouraging your loved one to advocate for themselves, and utilizing resources like Jailhouse Law and the ACLU, you can help ensure that their rights are respected and upheld.

Let’s continue to stand up for our loved ones and ensure that their voices are heard, even from behind bars.

Micah 6:8 (NIV): “He has shown you, O mortal, what is good. And what does the Lord require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God.”

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A Prison Mentality: My Husband’s Journey from a Teenage Inmate to Surviving in the System

My husband’s journey into the prison system began at just 17 years old when he was sent to a maximum security prison in Missouri. Thrown into a world of hardened criminals and violent environments, he quickly realized that survival meant adopting a "prison mentality." The influence of gangs wasn’t just pervasive—it was a way of life, a necessity for survival in a place where the weak were preyed upon, and alliances often meant the difference between life and death.

At 17, my husband faced a grim reality. He was in an environment where violence, manipulation, and survival instincts ruled. The influence of gangs became part of his daily life, and he told himself that he would become a "career criminal." It was the only way he knew to cope with the harshness of his surroundings. The idea of reform or rehabilitation was not on his radar; instead, the focus was on surviving each day in an unforgiving world.

One of the most shocking realizations for him was how easy it was to access drugs inside the prison compared to the outside world. Drugs were everywhere, a common currency, and a way to escape the grim reality of incarceration. This availability made it easy for many, including him, to fall deeper into addiction, further cementing the criminal mindset that prison life fostered.

As the years passed, my husband saw a pattern unfold—those he loved, dated, or even those who claimed to care, slowly forgot about him as his sentence dragged on. The longer he stayed inside, the more isolated he became. This wasn’t just a physical isolation; it was an emotional and psychological one as well.

His abandonment issues, rooted in a childhood marred by neglect from his mother, only intensified in prison. The sense of being forgotten, of being left behind by the world, became a significant trauma that he carried with him. This feeling of abandonment fueled his need for connection, which often led him into dangerous associations and further entrenched his "prison mentality."

The trauma my husband experienced in his childhood didn’t just vanish when he entered prison. Instead, it followed him, shaping his interactions and decisions in a place where vulnerability was a liability. His early experiences with abandonment laid the foundation for how he would navigate the brutal realities of prison life. The lack of support and the sense of being discarded by society only deepened his resolve to embrace the criminal lifestyle as his identity.

Looking back, my husband sees how these early experiences—both in his childhood and when he first entered prison—shaped the man he became. The gang influence, the easy access to drugs, and the constant feeling of being forgotten all played into the narrative he created for himself as a "career criminal." But these experiences also carry the weight of unresolved trauma, trauma that has affected his entire life and continues to be a battle he faces every day.

My husband’s story is not unique—many young men enter the prison system at an age where they are still forming their identities, only to have those identities shaped by the harsh and often dehumanizing environment of incarceration. The influence of gangs, the ease of access to drugs, and the deep-seated trauma from their pasts create a cycle that is difficult to break. For my husband, the journey began at 17, but it’s a journey that has defined much of his life.

As we work together to navigate his path toward rehabilitation and healing, we are also confronting these deep-rooted issues head-on. It’s a reminder of the importance of understanding the full picture—the experiences, the traumas, and the influences that lead someone down a path they never intended to take.

Micah 6:8 (NIV): “He has shown you, O mortal, what is good. And what does the Lord require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God.”

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Staying Connected: The Lifeline of Communication During Incarceration

When someone we love is incarcerated, it’s easy to feel like the world has suddenly become a lot smaller. The physical distance, combined with the barriers of prison life, can create a sense of isolation for both the person behind bars and their family members. However, maintaining regular contact with your loved one during this time is not just a way to keep your relationship alive—it’s a crucial part of their rehabilitation and well-being.

Staying in touch with your loved one can be a lifeline, providing them with the emotional support they need to endure the challenges of prison life. Regular phone calls, letters, and visits remind them that they are not alone, that they are loved, and that they have something to look forward to on the outside. This connection can be a powerful motivator for them to stay focused on their rehabilitation and resist the pressures that often come with incarceration.

Prison is a harsh environment, and for many inmates, the temptation to use drugs or get involved in illegal activities can be overwhelming. The stress, boredom, and lack of hope can drive them to seek escape through substances or by getting involved in prison politics. However, when they know they have someone on the outside who cares about them and is rooting for their success, they are more likely to resist these temptations. Your consistent communication can be a reminder of the life they want to return to—a life free from addiction and crime.

In prison, the pressure to join gangs or get involved in the prison's internal politics can be intense. For many, it’s seen as a way to survive. But involvement in these activities often leads to more trouble, more time added to their sentence, and a harder road to rehabilitation. By staying connected, you can help your loved one avoid these pitfalls. Regular contact can offer them a sense of normalcy and a reason to steer clear of the dangers that come with prison politics.

As a loved one, your role goes beyond just providing emotional support. You are also an advocate, someone who can help your loved one navigate the challenges of prison life. Encouraging them to participate in rehabilitation programs, reminding them of their goals, and offering guidance can make a significant difference in their journey. Your involvement can help them stay focused on what truly matters—getting out and staying out.

It’s not always easy to maintain contact. There are challenges—time constraints, the cost of phone calls, or the emotional toll of hearing about the difficulties they’re facing. But the effort is worth it. Every letter, every visit, every phone call is a step toward their successful reintegration into society. It’s a reminder that they are more than just an inmate—they are a father, a mother, a son, a daughter, a person with a future.

Staying connected with your loved one during incarceration is more than just a way to keep in touch—it’s a vital part of their rehabilitation. It helps them resist the pressures of prison life, avoid dangerous temptations, and stay focused on the goal of returning home. Your role as their advocate and supporter can make all the difference in their journey toward a better life.

Let’s continue to stand by our loved ones, offering them the support and love they need to get through this challenging time. Together, we can help them find their way back to a life of freedom and hope.

Micah 6:8 (NIV): “He has shown you, O mortal, what is good. And what does the Lord require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God.”

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Advocating for Our Loved Ones: Navigating Arizona's DOC Regulations and Protecting Inmates' Rights

When someone we love is incarcerated, the journey doesn't stop at the prison gates. In many ways, it’s just the beginning—especially when it comes to ensuring their rights are protected and their mental health needs are met. As prison wives, partners, and family members, we become advocates, voices for those who cannot speak for themselves within a system that often overlooks or outright violates their basic rights.

Staying Informed on DOC Regulations

The first step in advocating for our loved ones is understanding the regulations set by the Arizona Department of Corrections (DOC). These rules dictate everything from visitation rights to the types of communication allowed, and even the healthcare inmates receive. However, these regulations can be complex and are often updated, making it crucial to stay informed.

Regularly checking the DOC website, subscribing to updates, and joining support groups can help you stay on top of any changes. Knowledge is power, and the more you understand the rules, the better you can advocate effectively when those rules are misapplied or unjustly enforced.

Protecting Amendment Rights

The 8th Amendment, which protects against cruel and unusual punishment, is a cornerstone of our justice system, but it’s a right that is frequently violated in prisons. Overcrowded facilities, lack of adequate medical care, and mental health neglect are just a few ways these rights are compromised.

In Arizona, like many states, the prison system is under immense pressure—resources are stretched thin, and inmates often suffer as a result. It’s up to us to ensure that our loved ones' rights are not just acknowledged but actively protected. This might mean filing complaints, reaching out to legal aid organizations, or even organizing with other families to push for broader reform.

Advocating for Mental Health Care

Mental health care in prisons is another critical issue. Many inmates struggle with untreated mental health conditions that are exacerbated by the harsh realities of prison life. Unfortunately, mental health care is often insufficient, leading to deteriorating conditions and, in some cases, tragic outcomes.

Advocating for proper mental health care means staying vigilant. If your loved one is not receiving the care they need, don't hesitate to speak up. Contact the prison’s mental health services, file grievances if necessary, and seek outside help if the situation does not improve. In Arizona, organizations like the ACLU and other inmate advocacy groups can be invaluable allies in this fight.

Reaching Out: It's Up to Us

At the end of the day, our loved ones rely on us to be their advocates. They need us to be their voice, their strength, and their shield against a system that can be indifferent at best, and abusive at worst. This responsibility is heavy, but it is also a powerful position to be in. By staying informed, vigilant, and proactive, we can help protect their rights and ensure they receive the care they deserve.

Whether it's through writing letters, making phone calls, or even working with legal teams, our efforts can make a difference. We can’t afford to be passive; we must be relentless in our advocacy. Together, we can push for change, not just for our loved ones, but for everyone behind those prison walls.

For those needing to contact the Arizona DOC or advocate for their loved ones' mental health care, reach out to:

• DOC Inmate Family and Friends Liaison: iffliaison@azadc.gov
• ADCRR Clinical Liaisons (NaphCare): ADCRRClinicalLiaisons@naphcare.com

Micah 6:8 (NIV): “He has shown you, O mortal, what is good. And what does the Lord require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God.”

Let’s continue to stand up, speak out, and fight for justice. Our loved ones are counting on us, and together, we can make a difference.

The Violation of Inmates' 8th Amendment Rights

The 8th Amendment to the U.S. Constitution prohibits "cruel and unusual punishments." Yet, in our prisons, this right is often disregarded. Overcrowding, inadequate medical care, excessive use of force, and dehumanizing conditions are just a few of the ways inmates' rights are violated every day.

When we think of the 8th Amendment, we often imagine extreme cases of physical abuse, but the reality is far more pervasive. Consider this: denying inmates access to proper healthcare—whether for physical ailments or mental health needs—can be a form of cruel and unusual punishment. Allowing the spread of violence, turning a blind eye to sexual assault, and forcing people to live in unsanitary, dangerous conditions are all violations of this constitutional right.

As someone who once worked on the inside and now stands on the outside advocating for change, I've witnessed firsthand how these violations aren't just isolated incidents. They are symptoms of a broken system that prioritizes punishment over rehabilitation, retribution over humanity.

Every day, men and women behind bars are subjected to conditions that strip them of their dignity and violate their rights. This isn't just a failure of the system—it's a failure of society to uphold the basic human rights guaranteed to every individual, regardless of their past.

It's time we confront these issues head-on. We need to push for reforms that protect inmates' rights and ensure that our prisons aren't just places of punishment, but places where people can rehabilitate and reenter society with dignity.

Micah 6:8 (NIV): “He has shown you, O mortal, what is good. And what does the Lord require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God.”

Join me in advocating for change. Share this post, comment your thoughts, and follow my journey as I work to shed light on these injustices. Together, we can fight for a system that upholds the rights of every human being.

A Call to Action: The Power of Advocacy in Protecting Inmate Rights

"Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves, for the rights of all who are destitute." – Proverbs 31:8

In the shadows of the prison system, where the voices of inmates often go unheard, the influence of the outside world remains a powerful beacon of hope. Today, I share a recent, personal ordeal that underscores the urgent need for external advocacy and the profound impact it can have on the lives of those behind bars.

Recently, my husband, Ryan, suffered a brutal attack by another inmate, an incident that left him hospitalized with a crushed eye socket and requiring stitches—a stark reminder of the dangers that inmates face daily. This violent encounter stemmed from a denied request for an Immediate Healthcare Plan (IHP), which if granted, might have prevented this assault.

During his recovery, Ryan faced another challenge: a lack of communication tools due to a reported "tablet shortage" in the facility. This barrier prevented him from contacting his family and effectively isolated him during a critical time. Frustrated and determined, I reached out to the state liaison through a quick email, explaining Ryan’s dire situation. The response was swift; a tablet was provided to Ryan, reconnecting him with his loved ones and allowing him to push for his rights, specifically addressing the violation of his Eighth Amendment rights against cruel and unusual punishment.

This incident is a glaring example of how those on the outside can enact change and offer support. It shows that we are not powerless. By speaking up, by refusing to let such abuses slide into the background, we can make a difference. Advocacy does work, and it’s vital, especially for those who have little to no voice of their own within the system.

The Role of External Advocacy:

• Awareness and Education: Informing the public about the conditions and violations within prisons is crucial. Awareness leads to outrage, and outrage leads to action.
• Legal Support: Many inmates lack the resources to seek legal help. Advocates can facilitate access to legal aid, ensuring that inmates’ rights are defended.
• Policy Change: By lobbying for better laws and policies that protect inmates’ rights and ensure their safety, we contribute to long-term changes that can transform the prison system.

I urge each of you to consider the power you hold. Advocate for policy changes, volunteer at organizations that work towards prison reform, or simply lend a listening ear to the stories of those affected. Each action, no matter how small, contributes to a larger movement towards justice and humanity.

We must continue to speak for those like Ryan, who find themselves at the mercy of a system fraught with challenges. Let's band together to ensure that the rights and dignity of all inmates are upheld. It’s not just about making noise; it’s about making a difference.

Shadows and Light: Mental Health in the Prison System

"Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ." – Galatians 6:2

The prison environment is often discussed in terms of physical barriers and legal proceedings, but the psychological walls it erects can be just as daunting and destructive. Today, I explore the often-overlooked aspect of mental health within prisons, illuminated through my dual lens as a former correctional officer and as a prison wife.

The daily life of an inmate is riddled with challenges that extend beyond the visible confines of cell blocks and security checkpoints. The constant stress, isolation, and uncertainty can lead to profound psychological distress. For many, like my husband Ryan, the struggle is a silent battle against both the system and the stigma associated with mental health issues.

Mental Health Challenges Faced by Inmates:

• Stress and Anxiety: The pervasive uncertainty about future prospects, safety concerns, and the strain of confinement contribute significantly to mental health deterioration.
• Depression: Prolonged isolation and lack of meaningful social interactions can lead to depression, making reintegration into society even more challenging upon release.
• Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD): Many inmates experience traumatic events before and during incarceration, yet therapeutic support is sparse or non-existent.

Despite these challenges, the resources dedicated to mental health care in most prisons are woefully inadequate. Counseling sessions, when available, are often brief and infrequent, more about checking boxes for administrative purposes than providing real care. My husband's experiences echo through the stories of countless others, where the need for a compassionate approach is met with indifference.

The importance of support systems cannot be overstated. Regular communication with family and friends can serve as a lifeline for many inmates. However, the restrictions placed on these interactions only exacerbate the sense of isolation. As someone who has navigated the complex dynamics of prison relationships from both sides of the bars, I've witnessed how vital these connections are—and how easily they are hindered by regulatory barriers.

I urge each of you to consider the human element behind these walls. Advocate for better mental health resources in prisons, support initiatives that provide psychological services, and remember the power of simple, compassionate outreach. Share these stories, talk about these issues, and help us lift the stigma associated with mental health in prisons.

As we reflect on the burdens those in prison carry, let us be reminded of our responsibility to bear one another's burdens, not just in words, but through our actions. Let’s push for a system that not only contains but also heals.

Behind the Bars, Beyond the Judgment

I am the wife of a prisoner, they call me by name,
They judge me, label me, and question my claim.
To love a man in orange, shackled and confined,
But they don't see the heart, the soul, the mind.

Behind those bars, beyond that cold steel gate,
Lives a man I know, who holds my fate.
They see only the uniform, the crime, the past,
But I see the love, the hope, the change that will last.

I advocate for justice, for the truth to be told,
For a system that’s broken, cruel, and cold.
They ask me why I stand by his side,
But they don't know the battles, the tears we've cried.

I know the man behind the orange, the one who’s kind,
Who dreams of freedom, of leaving the past behind.
He’s more than a number, more than a mistake,
He’s the man who makes my heart ache.

The world may judge, may cast their stones,
But they don’t know the love that’s grown.
In their eyes, he's just an inmate, a case, a crime,
But in mine, he's my forever, my love, my time.

So I stand tall, despite the whispers, the sneers,
For I know the truth that quells my fears.
I am his, and he is mine, through this storm we fight,
For the man behind the orange, my love, my life.

~DeAnna Epperson

Love Behind Bars: The Unseen Struggles of a Prison Wife

"Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go." — Joshua 1:9

In today’s post, I delve into a personal aspect of my journey—life as a prison wife to Ryan, intertwined with the knowledge I gained from working within the very system that now holds him. This dual perspective brings unique challenges and insights, painting a raw picture of love and resilience in the face of a deeply flawed system.

Becoming a prison wife after serving as a correctional officer has opened my eyes to the contradictions and injustices that pervade the prison environment. Knowing the inner workings, the politics, and the undercurrents of corruption exacerbates the worry and frustration that come with each day Ryan spends behind bars.

Each morning begins with an undercurrent of anxiety. The routine calls that bridge our worlds are both a lifeline and a reminder of the miles and bars between us. These calls are our moments of normalcy, but they’re always shadowed by the awareness of being monitored, the reality of our words being recorded, a stark contrast to the freedom of privacy we once took for granted.

Visits are a mix of anticipation and dread. I know too well the procedures, the scrutiny of guards, and the oppressive atmosphere that greets me each time. Seeing Ryan in that environment, interacting with him through barriers both physical and regulatory, is a reminder of the power the system holds over our lives. My knowledge of what happens behind the scenes—of how guards can wield their power arbitrarily and how rules can be twisted—adds a layer of helplessness and vigilance to every interaction.

And then there’s the return home, a journey filled with reflections on what’s left behind. I drive away from the stark buildings, aware of the stark realities those walls contain—realities I once oversaw. It’s a drive I've made countless times, each leaving its own scar on the hopeful facade we try to maintain.

Through this blog, I hope to bring to light the day-to-day emotional battles that go unseen by the public and often unacknowledged by those who control the system. It’s not just about the loneliness or the struggle to maintain a relationship across prison walls; it’s about fighting against a system that seems designed to suppress hope at every turn.

As we continue to share and advocate, let’s remember the human element, the personal stories that need a voice. And for those who stand by someone inside, know that your strength, your advocacy, and your love are your power against a system that needs reform. Together, let’s push for a system that uplifts rather than undermines, that respects rather than restrains.

The Illusion of Rehabilitation: A Personal Journey Through Systemic Failures

"Learn to do right; seek justice. Defend the oppressed. Take up the cause of the fatherless; plead the case of the widow.” - Isaiah 1:17

Welcome back to our series. Today, we're examining a critical yet frequently misunderstood aspect of the prison system: rehabilitation programs. Drawing from my dual perspective as a former correctional officer and now a prison wife, I've witnessed firsthand the disparity between the intended purpose of these programs and their actual implementation. Let's explore the reality behind these rehabilitation efforts and discuss why they often fall short of their promises.

Rehabilitation programs in prisons are often touted as pathways to a better life post-release, encompassing educational courses, vocational training, and substance abuse counseling. Despite their potential, a significant disconnect exists between the program goals and their practical outcomes. Studies and statistics reveal a grim picture of underfunded and understaffed initiatives that barely scratch the surface of inmates' needs.

As a correctional officer, I observed the rollout of mandated educational programs, which were often presented as crucial for inmate rehabilitation. However, the reality was far from ideal. Classrooms were overcrowded, and the instructors often seemed just as disengaged as the inmates. But the deeper issue lay in the structural policies.

Transitioning to life as a prison wife, I gained a more intimate perspective through my husband’s experiences. He, like many others, faced significant hurdles due to learning disabilities—a challenge only exacerbated by the prison system's restrictive policies. Inmates were not allowed to keep textbooks or educational materials in their cells. This meant no opportunity for additional study or even a simple review of the day's lessons, yet all were required to pass these courses.

The stress this policy caused was palpable, especially for those with learning disabilities like my husband. It was disheartening to watch as inmates struggled to cope with academic demands, not due to a lack of effort or desire to learn, but because of an environment that seemed almost designed to set them up for failure. Furthermore, family input, which could have provided some support, was frequently ignored unless it was persistently pushed from the outside.

The prison environment is inherently restrictive and often counterproductive to genuine rehabilitation. Programs are not just battling logistical issues but also an institutional culture that views punishment as the primary objective. Funding is sporadic, staff are often untrained in rehabilitative methods, and there is a pervasive skepticism about the value of rehabilitating "criminals."

"I took a job training course, but it was more about filling time than teaching skills," shared one inmate during our discussions. This sentiment is echoed by many others who feel that these programs are merely checkboxes for administrators rather than true stepping stones to change.

Consider what true rehabilitation might look like: supported by adequate resources, led by trained professionals, and genuinely tailored to the needs of the incarcerated. I urge you to reflect on how we can advocate for these changes and support efforts to transform these programs into effective tools for change. Share your thoughts, spread the word, and help us push for a system that truly aims to rehabilitate and reintegrate, not just incarcerate.

Our journey through the prison system's rehabilitation programs highlights a stark reality: potential squandered by systemic neglect. Yet, there remains hope—hope that with persistent advocacy and informed reform, we can align the system's practices with its promises. Together, we can work towards a future where rehabilitation is not just an illusion but a tangible, transformative reality.

Welcome to "The Other Side of the Cell

This blog is a journey—my journey from being a correctional officer to becoming a prison wife, and now, an advocate for change within the very system I once served. Through these posts, I aim to peel back the curtain on the realities of the U.S. prison system, share my personal experiences, and explore how we can push for meaningful reform together.

Years ago, I stepped into a role that I thought was just another job. As a correctional officer, I believed I was part of a system that kept people safe by keeping "bad" people away. But as I walked the cell blocks and talked to the men behind bars, I saw more than criminals; I saw human beings with stories, families, and often, a deep sense of regret and a desire for redemption. My perspective shifted even more dramatically when I fell in love with one of them. He wasn’t just a number or a case file; he was, and is, the love of my life. Our journey together has opened my eyes to the profound flaws and failures of the prison system—a system that often punishes endlessly rather than rehabilitates.

It’s no secret that prisons are overcrowded and understaffed, but the issues run deeper than that. Drugs are often more accessible inside prison walls than out, and the staff—overworked and undertrained—are sometimes part of the problem, not the solution. Rehabilitation programs are frequently superficial at best, setting inmates up for failure upon release and feeding the vicious cycle of recidivism. This blog will dive into these issues, bringing to light the harsh realities that are often hidden from public view.

In the coming weeks and months, you can expect deep dives into:

• Personal stories from my life and the lives of those I’ve met along the way.
• Insights into systemic failures and what they mean for those inside and outside the prison walls.
• Interviews with experts in criminal justice reform, psychology, and other related fields.
• Discussions on potential reforms and how each of us can contribute to the change.

I invite you to join me on this path. Subscribe for updates, share this post to help spread the word, and engage with the content. Every comment, question, and share increases our ability to advocate for change. You can also follow my TikTok @pebblesnbam22 for more frequent updates and insights.

Thank you for taking the time to read this introduction. I believe that by sharing our stories and confronting the realities of the prison system, we can ignite a conversation that leads to real and lasting change. Together, we can turn the tide from punitive isolation to rehabilitative integration.

Micah 6:8 (NIV): “He has shown you, O mortal, what is good. And what does the Lord require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God.”

Navigating Love Through Bars: The Early Days of Our Relationship

The early days of our relationship were anything but easy. Falling in love with someone behind bars is not something you can prepare for, and every day felt like navigating uncharted territory. Yet, despite the challenges, our bond only grew stronger.

After deciding to leave my job as a correctional officer, I was filled with both relief and fear. Relief because I could finally let myself love freely, without the constraints of my professional role. Fear because I was stepping into a world of uncertainty, where judgment from others was inevitable, and the path ahead was anything but clear.

But the reality of those early days was even harsher than I anticipated. Ryan and I didn’t get to speak after I quit. In fact, the prison tried to get him to say that I was "coming on to him," and they opened a PREA investigation against me.

For those unfamiliar, the Prison Rape Elimination Act (PREA) is a federal law designed to prevent, detect, and respond to sexual abuse and harassment in correctional facilities. When a PREA investigation is opened, the facility investigates any allegations of sexual misconduct. In our case, the prison was looking into whether there had been any inappropriate conduct between Ryan and me. The process was intense and stressful, adding even more strain to an already difficult situation.

On the outside, things weren’t any easier. My then-husband and I were being followed and watched by the prison, and every move I made felt scrutinized. The pressure was immense, and there were days when it felt like the walls were closing in on me.

Our only communication during this time came through Ryan’s parents. Hearing how he was doing from them was both a blessing and a curse. It was a relief to know he was okay, but it was also heartbreaking to be so close yet so far away. We weren’t allowed to speak at all, and that silence was deafening.

Despite all of this, I never lost sight of why I made the choice to be with him. Love isn’t always logical, but it is powerful. And our love, no matter the circumstances, was something worth fighting for.

Those early days were filled with uncertainty and fear, but they also taught us resilience. Even though we couldn’t speak directly, we found ways to stay connected through the love we shared and the strength we found in each other. We made a promise to never give up, no matter how hard things got.

Looking back now, I realize that those early days were the foundation of the life we’ve built together. They taught us patience, endurance, and the true meaning of unconditional love. And even though our journey is far from over, I know that the strength we found during those days will carry us through whatever comes next.

"Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go."
—Joshua 1:9

Butterflies in His Eyes

Butterflies in His Eyes

It’s been almost two years, yet every glance feels new,
Like a high school girl in love, every time I look at you.
I see your photo, and my heart begins to race,
Butterflies flutter wildly, just from your face.

Through all the trials we've faced, through every storm and strife,
You remain my breath, my calm, the center of my life.
Your eyes hold a world where only we exist,
In those moments, I forget to breathe, caught up in your mist.

The way you look at me, the way you see my soul,
Makes everything else fade; you make me feel whole.
I catch my breath, remind myself to breathe,
For in your gaze, it’s so easy to believe.

That love like ours is timeless, beyond all space and time,
Two years, two lifetimes, still, you’re only mine.
And though I must wait for you, through prison’s heavy door,
My love will never waver, it’s you I adore.

I will always be faithful, my heart belongs to you,
There’s no other soul mine will ever connect to.
Captivated by you, I’m forever entwined,
No one else could ever cross my mind.

So, my love, know this truth from deep within,
I will always be yours, through thick and thin.
You’re my forever, my only desire,
In your eyes, I find my eternal fire.

~DeAnna Epperson

Prison Wife

Prison Wife

In the quiet of the night, I feel your absence deep,
Yet my heart whispers softly, "It's always You, my keep."
I am the light, steady and true, burning bright,
You, my love, are the dark, but together, we're just right.

You told me once, you love the moths, drawn to the flame,
From shadows, they come, no fear, no shame.
You’re the moth to my fire, seeking warmth in my glow,
And I promise, my love, I will never let go.

Though bars and walls stand tall, trying to keep us apart,
They can never touch the love that lives within my heart.
Five years may stretch long, but I'll wait through it all,
For you are my reason, my rise, and my fall.

No one can sever the bond that we've made,
Through darkness and light, together we've stayed.
So, my love, don't fear, I am forever your flame,
And when you return, it will be just the same.

It's always been you, from the start till the end,
My lover, my partner, my very best friend.
So rest easy, my moth, in the dark of your night,
For I will be here, your forever light.

~DeAnna Epperson

 In my first post, I introduced you to my journey from correctional officer to prisoner's wife. Today, I want to take you deeper into the moment that changed everything for me—the day I met my now husband and how that encounter shifted my entire world. But today is also a difficult day. It’s my husband’s 26th birthday, and while I want to celebrate his life, my heart is heavy with the recent events that have shaken us both.

I’ll never forget the day I first laid eyes on him. I was 46 years old, in a job that demanded strength and control. I was trained to see inmates as just that—inmates. We were taught that they were dangerous, manipulative, and unworthy of trust. And sadly, I believed it. It wasn’t until I stepped into the yard, face to face with the men I was supposed to oversee, that I began to see the cracks in the system and the humanity behind the labels.

Then, there he was—24 years old, yet already having lived a lifetime of struggle. Something about him drew me in. Maybe it was the way he looked at me, not with defiance or fear, but with a sense of curiosity, as if he saw beyond the uniform I wore.

At first, I tried to keep my distance. After all, I was a correctional officer. I had rules to follow, lines I couldn’t cross. But the more I spoke with him, the more I realized how much we had in common. He was more than his past, more than the mistakes that had brought him here. He was smart, thoughtful, and had a depth that intrigued me.

We connected on a level I hadn’t expected. It was crazy, awkward, and yes, even scary. How could I be developing feelings for someone on the other side of the bars? But there was no denying it—this was more than just a passing connection.

I knew my life was about to change in ways I couldn’t fully comprehend. I had to decide—would I continue down the path I’d always known, or would I follow my heart, no matter how unconventional it seemed? It wasn’t an easy decision. It meant leaving behind a career I had invested in, facing judgment from others, and stepping into a world of uncertainty. But in the end, love doesn’t follow the rules. And I knew that this was the path I had to take.

Today, as I reflect on our journey, I can’t help but feel the weight of what we’re going through right now. My husband, who turns 26 today, was beaten badly just a few days ago and taken to the hospital. I found out today that he ended up with stitches. He’s doing okay emotionally, but he’s struggling—especially with not being able to hear my voice. And I am too, baby. I am too.

On days like this, it’s hard to smile. It’s hard to find the strength to celebrate when all I want is to be there for him, to tell him that everything will be okay. But I know that our love is strong enough to get us through this, just like it has with everything else.

Looking back, I realize that meeting him was the moment everything shifted. My perspective on life, love, and the justice system would never be the same. It’s been a journey filled with challenges, but it’s also been one of the most rewarding experiences of my life. And even though today is hard, I’m reminded of the love we share and the strength that has carried us this far.

In my next post, I’ll share more about how I navigated the early days of our relationship and the challenges that came with it. If you’ve ever had a moment in your life that changed everything, I’d love to hear your story. Let’s continue this journey together, supporting each other through the highs and lows.

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"The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit."
—Psalm 34:18

(This was his first day living 25.....Here's to 26 and growth baby! I love you!)

Welcome to 'From Guard to Wife': My Journey Begins

Hello, and welcome to my blog! My name is DeAnna, and I'm here to share my story—a story that took a turn I never expected. From working as a correctional officer to becoming a prisoner's wife, my life has been a journey of love, resilience, and transformation. But more than that, this blog is about so much more than just my story. It's about providing support, resources, and raising awareness for those who, like me, have found themselves navigating the shadows of the justice system.

I started my career as a correctional officer, believing in the system and wanting to make a difference. But my life took a dramatic turn when I met my now husband. At the time, I was 46 years old, and he was 24. I never imagined that I would fall in love with someone on the other side of the bars, let alone someone much younger, but love doesn’t always follow the rules. It was a connection I couldn’t ignore, and it changed everything.

At the time, I was married, trying to save a relationship that had become hollow. I was numb on the inside, doing everything I could to give my husband what he wanted materially, while dealing with his depression and materialistic behaviors. We had just moved to a new home, and I was struggling to keep everything together.

Then I met my now husband. Our story is crazy, awkward, and funny, but through it all, we've discovered that we are soul mates. No matter what life throws at us, nothing will tear us apart.

This blog is a space for others who are walking a similar path. Whether you're a prison wife, a family member of someone incarcerated, or someone interested in understanding the justice system from a new perspective, this blog is for you. I'll be sharing my personal journey, offering resources, and providing support to help others navigate the complexities of life with a loved one behind bars.

From the challenges of addiction and incarceration to the emotional ups and downs of supporting someone on the inside, I’ll be sharing it all. This is a place where we can be real, support each other, and hopefully, find some light in the shadows.

In the coming posts, I’ll dive deeper into my experiences—from my time as a correctional officer to my journey of love and resilience with my now husband. I’ll also be sharing practical advice, resources, and stories that might just help others who are going through similar challenges.

I hope you’ll join me on this journey. Whether you’re here to find support, learn more about the justice system, or simply follow along with our story, I’m glad you’re here. Feel free to leave comments, share your own experiences, or ask questions. Let’s create a community where we can support each other through the highs and lows.

Thank you for being here. Stay tuned for my next post, where I’ll dive deeper into how my life changed when I met my now husband and how I went from guard to wife. Until then, take care, and remember—you’re not alone in this journey.